I was looking for a house to buy. A friend had a house for sale that seemed pretty nice and the friend was struggling financially. We worked it out that I would try to buy the house for a certain price to keep my friend from getting into further financial trouble. The price was below what he owed so I had to work it out with the bank. In the meantime to help him out with the payment, I moved in and paid rent every month. He did not keep up on the payments, he spent the money on everything but the mortgage payment. While I was in the process of negotiations with the broker and mortgage company I found out that the house was going through foreclosure. The bank would not budge on their asking price. I was concerned that I would not be able to come to an agreed upon price for the house, the place would be foreclosed on and I would be out of a place to live so I looked around for other places to buy because it did not look like anything was going to happen with this deal. I found a place that was almost the same as my friend’s place. There was no negotiation with this house. It was nearby and had the most of same things that I was looking for in a house, some things were even nicer than my current place. The market was good, interest rates down, and I made an offer that they accepted. I told my friend and he immediately became mad at me because he said that I had agreed to buy his house and that would keep him from destroying his credit. He became really upset with me and our 15+ year friendship was on the rocks. He decided that he did not even want me around and stopped emailing me and did not call me anymore. He did not invite me to his son’s christening, his son and daughter are my God children!
I am very worked up about this. We have mutual friends and have been friends for a long time. I was only trying to help out a friend but when things were not looking promising, I had to take advantage of the market and what was in front of me.
Do you think that I am wrong to consider this person my friend when he won’t even allow me at his home or children’s events because I did not buy his house?
How can I communicate with him without apologizing? I don’t feel that I did anything wrong.
He keeps saying that we were supposed to be friends and that he can’t understand how I could go and buy something else when he is a friend and going through a hard time. He has a huge house, beautifully furnished, three kids, new cars, toys, trips. He cannot afford the second house because he does not take care of his current financial obligations before taking on luxuries. I just feel that the blame is being placed squarely on my shoulders when I am just a tiny fraction of the entire equation? Am I wrong?
I just want to know what to email him without apologizing. I am not sorry that I was taking care of myself and my family first. Thanks, Sandford
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On December 13, 2006 a local home builder put 2 new houses across the street from me. They used an excavating company to dig a ditch and install a new sewer system in my Utility Right of Way by the road. They covered the pipes up and have not touched my property since. I told them I was going to sell my house in the Spring, and needed it fixed ASAP. Well since then, I have tried to contact them several times, called, stopped by their office and find out a time frame. Still, I see them drive past and look at my property, but never stop or call. It is now April 3, and no sign of any work going to be done. I just received an estimate for 50 to have it repaired. Everyone who comes to look at my beautiful house for sale asks about the damage up front. WHAT DO I DO? Is there a certain period of time they have to repair it? Do I take them to small claims court? I live in Ohio and it is now spring. Need help ASAP, my house is for sale and my property looks terrible.
